How to Talk to Your Parents About Feeling Overwhelmed
Feeling like it’s all too much?
There are times when school, friends, work, and expectations pile up so high that you don’t know how to manage. Maybe you’ve thought about telling a parent, guardian, or another adult you trust how how stressed you feel, but the words get stuck or you worry they will not understand. You are not alone. Here in British Columbia, I hear from many teens and young adults who feel this way. They want support but are unsure how to ask for it. The good news is there are ways to make that conversation feel easier and more honest.
How do I even start the conversation?
It often helps to plan what you want to say before diving in. Try:
Choose a calm moment when your parent or trusted adult is not rushed or distracted.
Begin with honesty: “I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately, and I’d like to talk about it.”
Keep it simple: You do not need all the answers. Just sharing how you feel is enough.
Try this: Write down a few points or even practice with a friend so you feel more prepared.
What if I’m worried they won’t get it?
It is common to feel like your parents might not understand, especially if they did not grow up talking openly about emotions or mental health. You might try:
Share your experience, not just the problem. For example, “When I have three assignments due at once, I feel panicked and cannot focus.”
Explain what helps: Maybe you need someone to talk to, a study break, or less pressure.
Be patient: Sometimes it takes more than one conversation for parents to fully grasp how you are feeling.
How can I make sure I feel heard?
Healthy communication is about both talking and listening. You might:
Ask them to just listen first before offering advice.
Use “I” statements like “I feel anxious when…”
Check in together about next steps, like creating a plan for support.
What if the conversation doesn’t go as planned?
Not every talk will be perfect, and that is okay. If you feel shut down or misunderstood:
Try again later when emotions are not as high.
Write a note or text if speaking out loud feels too hard.
Consider talking to one parent at a time if speaking to both together feels overwhelming. This can make the conversation feel less intense and give each parent a chance to really listen.
Reach out for extra support. Sometimes a counsellor can help open up communication.
Remember, you’re not broken
Feeling overwhelmed does not mean something is wrong with you. Many young people struggle with stress and emotions, and learning to talk about it is a powerful step forward. Even small conversations can help you feel more supported and connected at home.
If you would like someone outside your family to talk to, I offer counselling here in BC for teens and young adults. Together, we can practise these conversations, explore what is weighing on you, and find strategies that help you feel calmer and more confident.
If you are in need of more support, reach out and book a consultation. You do not have to figure this out on your own.
This content is for educational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health treatment. If you're struggling with feeling overwhelmed, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.
